A lot of men believe that women don't hook up with nice guys. XXXConnect.com is here to prove to you that really do, and help you be a more desirable nice guy.

Many men who have this notion that women don't hook up with nice guys because of a time when they've been rejected, and the reason that they were given involves the words 'friend' and 'nice guy'. The pain that comes with being rejection often clouds our judgement, and we hear things in a different way than they were intended. When a woman says that you're a 'nice guy' and that they just want to stay friends, it's their way of letting you down easily. If you think about it, there's absolutely nothing with being called a nice guy, and the idea of getting upset because someone wants to be your friend is tough to understand.

You surely have friends who are in relationships with women. Are your friends not nice guys? Of course they are; or else why would you be friends with them? Being upset about being called a 'nice guy' too often just means that you're asking out the wrong women. Relationships only work when both parties are attracted to each other. If you find yourself being rejected a lot, it's not because you're a nice guy. It's because you're not reading the room properly, and the women you're asking out aren't attracted to you.

Thankfully there are lots of women out there who WILL find you attractive. Read on as we look into how to get more dates, and have fewer women call you a 'nice guy' while still being a nice guy!

Women DO like nice guys. So if you're actually a nice guy, that's a great thing. You shouldn't let that define you though. Women don't want to hook up with guys who describe themselves as nice guys above all else. That suggests a personality that's lacking in interests and talent. When a woman doesn't want to hook up with a nice guy, there are other factors at work. When a woman doesn't want to hook up with YOU, it's not because you're a nice guy. It's because they aren't sexually attracted to you. That same woman has surely liked someone at a point in their life, who didn't like them back. That's just how dating and hooking up works. So keep being a nice guy, and eventually you'll be able to recognize the women who like the rest of you.

For a long time, we've been fed a weird line that men and women can't be friends. That there's always going to be an underlying sexual tension if they aren't having sex with each other. Think of all of the women in your life that you're friends with, work with, and see in your day that you don't have an undeniable urge to have sex with. That's normal, and it's obviously ridiculous to think that any woman that is friendly or nice to you wants to hook up with you. This is what a lot of us have been told growing up, but if that belief is affecting your dating life, and making you think that any woman who enjoys spending time with you must also want to date you, it's time to rid yourself of those thoughts.

This is certainly easier said than done, but it's essential if you want to be able to have successful female friendships, and if you want to be able to be better at knowing when a woman that you're interested in is also interested in you. We're not suggesting that you hit on every woman who smiles at you, but when men believe that women aren't interested in them because they're nice, it displays a strong inability to read the room, and tell the difference between friendly banter and flirting. Though they can be connected, we all need to be better at reading body language. When we become convinced that someone is the woman of our dreams (romantic or otherwise), people have a tendency to start overanalyzing things, and inferring things that aren't there. If you're finding yourself rejected more often than you'd like to be, the burden is on you to get better at figuring out if a woman is interested in you, or just being nice.

When two people who are meant to be together meet, there's no such thing as being out of someone's league, but in casual dating and hookups, leagues are very real. You might be wise to take a look at yourself and decide whether or not you're trying to punch above your weight class or not.

Try this, and see how it goes. The next time you're at a party, or in a social situation, where asking someone out would be appropriate, try to meet at least three new women. It doesn't matter if they're super models or not. Don't even start talking to them out of sexual interest. Just try to get to know them, and have a normal conversation. If any of them make you laugh, have a mutual interest with you, or tell you a great story, think about whether or not you'd be interested in dating them, and realize that she probably has lots of great jokes and stories, and you can spend time together doing your mutual hobby. If you think about it and you think that going on a date with them could be fun, you should ask them out.

There are literally hundreds (maybe thousands) of single women living in your city right now, who love a lot of the same things as you, are super interesting people, could make you laugh every time you see them, and would be very excited about hooking up with you. Seek them out, and appreciate them, regardless of whether or not they're as pretty as your favourite actress. Let us let you in on a little secret. The more time you spend with someone, and the more you like them, the hotter they become. Think of a friend whose girlfriend you don't find particularly hot, and then think about how in love your friend is with them, and how much it seems like they're 100% into each other. Heck! He's probably even a nice guy.

This isn't going to be a solution to all of your problems, but how's your style game? Are you dressed to impressed at every event you go to? Neatly groomed? Or are you maybe a little lazy when it comes to how you dress? It's 100% fine to not be interested in fashion, but if that's how you feel, you need to also realize that this could be affecting whether or not women want to hook up with you. We'd venture to guess that the way you dress is probably considerably more important to your hook up success rate than whether or not you're a nice guy. Especially when we're talking hookups, and and not dating, it makes sense for a woman to be more interested in having sex with a man who's well dressed, than one who's wearing jeans and a t-shirt. If you want to hook up with women who have it all, then YOU need to at least almost have it all.

Take a look around you, and when you see a woman you're attracted to with her boyfriend or husband, take note of how they're dressed. Take these notes for a while and then boil down your research info to figure out what type of clothes to buy to improve your chances of hooking up with the women you want to hook up with.

I'm sure you've seen these types of guys before. They've probably even dated your friends before. There are a lot of guys in the world who pretend to be nice guys in order to get a woman to date them, and then once they've been dating for a little while, it becomes clear that they're not actually nice guys at all. That they saw kindness in their girlfriend, and preyed upon it by acting like they were like them. Talk to your female friends, and they're sure to have a story or two about guys that they dated who seemed nice at first, but then slowly revealed themselves to be jerks. This is also a reason that women can sometimes shy away from dating men who too confidently identify themselves as nice guys. 'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me,' and all that good stuff. When a guy is acting a bit too nice, it can seem suspicious. So be yourself, and be nice, but maybe don't think of yourself as a nice guy.

Many men have been led to believe this "women don't hook up with nice guys" myth for so long, and they've been on the receiving end of rejection more times than they're comfortable admitting. The way that a man reacts to rejection speaks volumes about their character. If they take it gracefully, when they're telling their friends the story, the woman will tell them that the guy took it well, and her friends will think that that's a good thing. He'll go up in their books. Get some bonus points.

If a guy reacts poorly to being rejected though, it's an extremely bad look. Imagine if a frustrated man blows up at a woman who rejects him by saying that he's a nice guy, and she wants to just be friends. If he freaks out and says something about how women don't hook up with nice guys, the woman will most certainly be telling that story to their friends, and they'll think less of him. They'll think that he's angry, and not someone that they would want to date, or recommend another friend to date.

So be classy in rejection. It's not the end of the world, and by not freaking out, you could actually be increasing your chances with other women within your social circles.

A lot of times, self-proclaimed nice guys have a difficult time making the first move on women that they're interested in. They'll go on multiple pseudo dates, but never be able to work up the courage to go in for the kiss. This is very common nice guy behaviour, and the message that it sends out to the woman isn't that you're a nice guy who's being respectful. It's that you're not interested in them sexually or romantically. So even if they ARE interested in you, if you're too shy to make a move in the first two or three dates, they will very often think that they misread your intentions, and then move on thinking of you as just a friend, and seeking out other potential partners. Once that switch has been flipped, it's very difficult for it to go back the other way. This is not being put in the friend zone. This is moving on with her dating life because you were bad at communicating your interest.

The friend zone is a toxic concept that you would be best off forgetting completely. It's largely referenced by men who have been rejected, and want to put the blame on the woman who rejected them, by acting as though they've been wronged, rather than accepting that it just wasn't meant to be.

We hope that you've accepted by now that the idea that women don't hook up with nice guys is fundamentally wrong, and see how you might have better luck finding women who want to hook up with you if you ask the question, "Why Don't Women Hook Up With Me?". We wish you much success and many hook ups with your new understanding of why you might not be sealing the deal as often as you'd like to.

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