The honest and most responsible answer to the question of whether drunk sex is better than sober sex is NO. One or two drinks can take the edge off a stressful situation, but have more than your limit and you are affecting your ability to give consent, plus you will be putting yourself in a potentially dangerous position. The bottom line is that it is best not to drink when you have sex.

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No, you cannot legally consent to sex if you are drunk. This means that if you are a guy and you have sex with a woman who is drunk, you are effectively guilty of rape. If you are a woman and you have sex with a guy while you are drunk, then you could be a) getting that guy in a lot of trouble, and b) honestly, whatever happens is not your fault, so c) look after yourself and know your limits. The bottom line is that drunk sex is never a good idea, and we cannot condone it.

If you are in one of those kinds of relationships where you know each other inside out and everything goes, and you really want to have drunk sex, then just drink however much it takes to get you tipsy. Tipsy sex can be okay if you just have enough to take the edge off and give the word a rosy glow. But there are stages of drunkenness, and the stage you do not want to get to is catatonic.

If you are so drunk that you have no idea where or who you are, then not only are you being extremely foolish by hurting your liver, your brain, endangering your life, potentially wasting the time and resources of the emergency services, and so on, but you are also setting yourself up for a long day in court if the other person decides that the sex was not consensual. However, if you want to put the sensual back in consensual, stick to one or two drinks and you will be okay. Probably. Just know when to stop, and if you don't know when to stop, don't start. (Insert endless caveats here).

The pros are that a few drinks can take the edge off those pre sex jitters, and can also potentially help you to relax during sex, which can help stimulate blood flow to the genital area, or groin. The cons are many, however, and far outweight the pros. For one thing, it can be hard to stop drinking once you get started, and in our modern culture it is the norm for a man to buy drinks for a woman. This can lead to a situation in which a woman may feel it is rude to say no, and to keep drinking. News flash -- it is not rude to decline the offer of a drink, women. If he keeps insisting, then he is the one who is being rude; shut him down and walk away.

You feel more when you are sober, plus you will be able to remember what you did a lot more clearly. Drunk sex can be okay if you are in your teens (and let's face it, most of the sex you will have had as a teen was probably drunk sex, right?) and if you are a dude, but when you are a woman, there is a big legal issue that revolves around your ability to give your consent. A woman needs to protect herself, and so being drunk really flies in the face of that. The opposite of victim shaming, we would say that a woman can be proactive and know her limits in a dangerous world full of dangerous men, many of whom seem to think that they are knights in armour (news flash -- these self-professed feminist knights in shining armour can be among the most dangerous of men).

Yes, absolutely, especially in a heterosexual relationship or hookup. Of course, a man can take advantage of another man, but more often than not, when drunk sex happens and one of the parties is a man and the other a woman, then the man is implied to be the one in control of the situation. This is why a man should take care not to have sex with a woman when either party is drunk -- while it may have seemed consensual at the time, and drunkenness that comes out during potential litigation will bring the question of consent into play. Be a gentleman, if you are a guy, and also cover your own ass -- don't drink and dunk. If you are a woman, protect your body, your honour, and potentially your life by not drinking and having sex.

That is the real question. The fact is that having sex while drunk means you probably won't remember what happened -- or at least, not that clearly. And it is important that you do. The real question is not "Should I do it again?" (although you should be asking yourself this, and answering "No"), but rather "What DID I do in the first place?" The fact is that you will probably not be able to remember all too clearly just what went down. This being the case, it is hard to say if it was good or not. Waste of time? Yes, pretty much.

If the guy was respectful and took care of you, then you can think about maybe seeing him again, but realistically if a man has sex with you while you are drunk then he is not much of a gentleman. The thing to do here would be to not call him again, unless the drunkenness was not his fault. Perhaps you had a few too many white wine spritzers and you came on to him. Or maybe you were pals who got a bit frisky after a night out that got a little wild. If you feel that the situation was innocent enough, and you like the guy okay, then you can call him again; the bottom line though is that you may not really recall that well what really happened, and since either or both of you was drunk, it may be hard to say that you (as a woman) were not dishonoured. If you are both men, then by all means just go ahead and do whatever you want. If you're a guy and she's a girl -- leave her alone, dude, and next time don't have sex with a woman when either one of you has been drinking. Be a gentleman next time.

The only real drawback to having sex while sober is that you will remember how awful it was. Unless it was good, in which case there isn't really any drawback to having sober sex. The pros are that you will be in control, you will be able to give legal consent, you will be more sensitive to touch, you won't smell of alcohol, and you won't forget their name (or yours) half way through. So many pros, and so few cons, mean that sober sex is the way to go if you want to stay sexy in the dating game of the modern world. From a hook up point of view, every man or woman who you meet swimming around in the shark tank with you will want you to be sober -- and those who do not are not worth a dime!

This is one of those questions that should probably answer itself, but here we go. Number one -- get out of there. Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, get away from this creep and do not see him again. If he is coming on strong, get somewhere safe and call the cops, because what he is attempting is actually assault. If a man that you know gets you drunk and then tries to have sex with you, then you know one thing is for certain -- that is not a man that you want to know, let alone have sex with. Of course you should not have sex with him; the only real course of action you should take should be to get away from him, go home, go to the home of a good friend, go to the cops -- just go to a safe place. If you feel he is a danger to you, or to others, then by all means go to the cops and tell them of your concerns. Other than that, cut this person out of your life. Do not return calls, do not reply to his messages, block him on every platform you may be connected on, and never see him again.

Pizza and fries. Netflix. Reading a book. Staying home and doing the laundry. Going to a movie. Sober sex. Jenga. The list of things that are better than drunk sex is almost endless. There are so many better ways to spend your money -- and your life -- than on boozy sex. And having drunk sex is a waste of your money -- and your life. Every dollar you spend on booze (and let's face it here, booze is expensive) is a dollar you could be putting into your savings. At the end of the year you could have enough for a new car, a holiday, a house, a yacht, your own pizzeria, a pony, a rocket backpack, a hoverboard, a cinema ticket, a cheeseburger, a Donald Trump mask, or any number of awesome things that are totally better than losing your panties in a bar room john after getting knocked up by some dude you will never see again. Stay home, save your pennies, and live a richer life.

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