It is easier than ever to make contact with a past relationship and hook up with them again. People are reaching out to their exes when they are feeling very lonely. This is possible because of social media which makes it easier for people to communicate with people that they know. Social media and dating apps have even encouraged many dating trends. They become a way for people to understand their dating experiences and find solidarity among other people who are experiencing the same thing. These dating trends become more popular during certain times of the year and it is important to be aware of these trends and learn how to either use them to your advantage or avoid them. One of the most popular dating trends is "Marleying" and is very popular during the holidays.

"Marleying" is when an ex contacts you during the holidays. They are either contacting you to get back together or they are just looking for casual hookups. They will primarily contact you through social media, text message or any other form of communication. It is unlikely that they will call you or meet-up in person until you agree to see them again. The only exception to this is when you bump into an ex when you return to your hometown for the holidays. It is important to remember "Marleying" is temporary. They are not looking to get back together with you. They want to not feel alone during the holidays and looking for some easy companionship. They are most likely not dating anyone else or at least not dating them exclusively and are feeling lonely which is why they are trying to reconnect with old exes. Since you already have a relationship with them, they will choose you to cut down on the amount of time that they have to spend trying to get to know someone new. Also, many people are not looking to start a new relationship during the holidays since it is a time for family and family traditions.

"Marleying" has different stages depending on how your ex is choosing to contact you. For the most part, if you are being "Marlied", you will be contacted through social media or by text message. The message will be simple but will usually include a smiley face or some kind of emoji to try to soften you up so that you will be accepting of them contacting you randomly. The message will sound like a casual inquiry into how you are doing but it is a proposition. From there, you can choose how to respond. If you want to meet up with them, then they will probably ask you for coffee or dinner. From there, they will try to remind you of all the good times that you had in your relationship and say how much they missed you. The holidays can make people feel bad for not being in a relationship which is why "Marleying" is so popular.

"Marleying" is the holiday version of "zombie-ing". "Zombieing" is when you have been dating someone or have broken up with someone and had no contact with them for months but suddenly they send you a message asking how you have been doing. It refers to the fact that an ex is coming out of the "dead" to haunt you or contact you again to try to resurrect your relationship. It can be seen as leading someone on or even feel entitled to their exes time and energy even after they have not spoken for a while. "Zombieing" is another dating trend that has been popularized by social media and keeping contact with your exes through these sites and apps. "Zombieing" tends to go hand-in-hand with "ghosting" which is when someone that you are interested in or casually dating when suddenly they just stop talking to you.

"Marleying" is the seasonal version of the dating trend known as "zombieing". The term "Marleying" refers to the character of Jacob Marley from Charles Dickens' A Christmas Carol. In the classic story, Jacob Marley returns from the dead as a ghost to haunt his business partner, Ebeneezer Scrooge, and show him all his past mistakes. In the same way, "Marleying" is when your ex returns to your life and reminds you of your past relationship. "Marleying" is about reconnecting with exes during the holidays because you are looking for companionship. For many people, "Marleying" is a mistake and reminds them of all the problems that happened with that relationship that caused it to end.

"Marleying" is pretty common for a variety of reasons. The first one is that the holidays can be a very lonely time for people who do not have a strong relationship with their family or if you are single. Seeing everyone else in love or happy on social media can put a lot of pressure on you to feel like your life is not as good because you do not have anyone in your life to love you. Also when visiting family during the holidays, they will probably ask you why you are still single which can have a negative affect on your self-worth. This type of interrogation is something that people dread when it comes to visiting family during the holidays. "Marleying" is a solution for many people because they do not want to be alone during the holidays. Rekindling a romance or having a hook up with an ex can make people feel less alone.

"Marleying" is also very common during the holidays because people are returning to their home towns and their exes are inevitably going to be around. While usually bumping into an ex can be awkward, it can also make it seem like connecting with them is a good idea especially when you are surrounded by happy couples and families. This is even more likely if you are from a small town where there is a higher chance of seeing your ex again. Sometimes "Marleying" can mean fooling yourself into thinking that you still have feelings for your partner and that you want to give the relationship another try. This is temporary and influenced by the loneliness that comes with the holidays.

If you want to figure out whether or not "Marleying" is a good idea, it depends on what you are expecting to happen from a hook up with your ex during the holidays. If you are just looking for a brief relationship that is mutually beneficial, then you this could be the right choice for you. Especially during the holidays, hooking up with an ex can make you happier when you are feeling pressured and unloved. "Marleying" does not have to always be a bad idea as long as both people agree and are aware that this is just a hookup and that you are not actually getting back together. For some people, "Marleying" can make them feel disposable or like they do not matter but as long as both people are aware of what is going on, it does not have to be a bad thing.

There is nothing inherently wrong with "Marleying" although it can have a negative impact on people. Everyone wants to feel connected and have someone special to hang out with during the Holidays which is when people are flaunting their relationships the most and since the Holidays are multiple days, the feeling can increase the longer that you realize that you are single. "Marleying" only becomes a problem when one person believes that they are getting back together with their ex because they have contacted them. For some people, "Marleying" sends the wrong message about what the relationship is like and it can lead to hurt feelings or problems later on.

If you are going to try "Marleying" then you want to make sure that you are contacting the right person. You do not want to contact an ex who you had a bad break up with or who was very serious about you. There might be unfinished business or baggage that you do not want to deal with. If you get back together with them then it could cause problems and give them the wrong impression about what you are doing together and things will turn out worse than if you were alone. You should make sure that both of you are aware that you are just looking for casual hookups and that you are not actually getting back together. Make it clear that is just a temporary solution and that it does not mean anything serious.

The choice is up to you whether or not you want to respond to your ex "Marleying" you. It also depends on what you are looking for from them. If you actually want to start up a relationship with them again, at least temporarily, or if you are just looking for a fast and easy hookup. If there are any lingering feelings or hidden resentment, then you should probably avoid opening up communication with your ex. The benefit of "Marleying" is that it is supposed to be easy to get back into contact with your ex and that there is not going to be any fallout from doing it. When the situation gets more complicated, then it will not give you what you are looking for but cause you more problems. If you want to be sure of you ex's feelings, you need to ask what they are expecting to see if it is something that you are also interested in. If you are trying to get over them or if you have a lot of anger towards them, then you should cut off all communication and ignore them instead.

If you are concerned about "Marleying" and being contacted by your ex then it is best not to answer messages from them especially during the holidays. This is the best way to insure that you will not find yourself in this type of situation. Although, being contacted by your ex is something that can happen all year round, people get more desperate not to be alone during this time of the year. If you want to avoid being "Marlied" by an ex, then do not respond to any messages from exes on social media or on other online dating services. If you do respond, even if just to give a simple no, it opens up communication between you. This might make them think that you want to talk to them. Any response will make open you up to them "Marleying" you and trying to reconnect. Social media makes it easy to find your exes because you can stalk their pages without them knowing about it. It can be tempting to contact your exes during the holidays and it is best to avoid social media and resisting the temptation to look up their profiles and see what they are doing lately.

As well as ignoring messages from exes during the holidays, you should also avoid places where you might bump into your ex. You do not make it easy for them to find you especially if you know that you might be tempted to agree to see them again. This includes bars, restaurants, clubs, or neighborhoods where they live. It might seem like a bit of an overreaction but the holidays can confuse people into thinking that they are still in love with an ex since they do not want to be alone. This is very important when you return to your home town during the holidays. If you cannot avoid them, then you need to keep the conversation neutral so that they do not get confused. You also need to remind yourself that you broke up with your exes for a reason and think about all of those when you are thinking about contacting them.

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