Sex is becoming a significant part of modern dating especially with the
popularity of casual hookups. This guarantees that you and your partner are
going to be relatively sexually experienced. However, this also means that if you are
inexperienced it can affect your dating life and the amount of hookups you
find.
Some gay men will feel embarrassed about not knowing a lot about sex and
this makes them nervous about finding hookups. Although practice makes perfect,
some men will want to have some knowledge with different sex positions, especially
riding before they hook up with other gay men.
There are many sex positions
involved in gay sex and they all have their own advantages especially for the bottom or
receiver during sex. However, one of the more pleasurable positions is riding. Riding
involves sitting or crouching on top of your partner while they are lying or sitting
down and then being penetrated by them. Riding is one of the most popular positions in
gay sex because it makes penetration easier and more pleasurable especially for the
bottom partner. It also involves a psychological aspect which allows one partner to be
more dominating. This is a popular position because it offers the bottom control over
their top's pleasure.
Riding a guy can also be very intimidating for inexperienced gay men because it forces them to be in charge of their own pleasure as well as well as their partner's pleasure. This can put a lot of pressure on the person on the top and can be very physically demanding as well. If you are not used to this type of activity, you might feel nervous about injuring your partner. Riding a guy can seem like something that is strange or uncomfortable at first but if you are relaxed, it is very exciting and pleasurable. Riding a guy involves knowing how to move your body in a way that is sexually pleasurable for your partner. It is important to go slow especially if you are new to this position so that you do not cause either yourself or your partner injury.
Nobody is perfect at sex especially if they are trying out a new position which means that you have to practice to get better at it. Your first time riding will probably involve a lot of fumbling and trying to figure out what works and what does not, however, there are some ways that you can minimize this by practicing these movements when you are alone. If you are inexperienced with hookups and gay sex then practicing can help you feel more comfortable. One of the ways to do this is to have a lot of sex with different partners so that you can get a better idea of what you like and what works for your body. However, you can also practice on your own using sex toys or just trying out different positions in front of a mirror. Practicing riding can help your muscles prepare for this type of activity which minimizes the likelihood of injury or cramping. Doing it in front of a mirror will help you figure out what you are doing and what you look like when you are doing it which will give you make improvements where you need to.
Another thing that you can do to prepare your body for this type of physical activity is to stretch every single day. Riding a guy can cause a lot of strain on your legs, back and butt muscles. It also affects your stamina and endurance. Stretching not only helps prepare your muscles but it also helps you build up your stamina over time which will make riding a guy easier and more pleasurable with less of a chance of injury or cramping. One of the best ways to help condition your body is a low-impact yoga or Pilates workout routine. These types of exercise can make you more flexible and build your endurance. For the best results, this routine should be done at least 3 times a week for 30 minutes. Yoga exercises have also been proven to have health benefits and can help you deal with stress and anxiety.
The most important thing to remember when you are riding a guy or having gay sex is to use a lot of lubricant, or lube. Lube makes everything smoother which makes for a pain-free penetration. There are many lubes that are flavored or will increase your physical sensations. It is important to keep your sexual experiences safe and fun by using condoms and lubrication to protect yourself and your partner. When you are riding a guy, you want to make sure that your movements are going to be seamless and that there is not going to be any chafing or friction when you are moving your hips. This is why it is important to be well-lubricated by using a silicone-based lube when you are riding a guy.
If you are inexperienced, you will not be used to the physical demand that anal sex has on the body. You can use lube to stretch yourself out before or have your partner help prepare you by using their fingers or sex toys to make sex painless. You should also make sure that you are adding extra lube before you actually get penetrated. When you are riding, you are in control of the level of penetration, lube can make it easier for both of you. It might feel a little strange at first but you will appreciate it afterward.
Nobody wants to hear any embarrassing noises or have accidents when they are having sex but these things can happen especially with certain sexual positions. If you are new to anal sex and riding, then you might not be aware of the pressure that this can put on your stomach and if you eat a big deal before having sex then you are going to feel very embarrassed at the noises that your body is making. If you are trying out riding, do not eat anything between 2-4 hours before. This will prevent a build-up of gas and also cut down on a lot of the cleanup. Your insides can be irritated by the penetration which is why it is better to be cautious and limit the amount of food that you are taking in before having sex with your hookups. However, you also need the energy to build your stamina. Pick high-energy snacks like almonds or berries to munch on during the day so that you are not hungry. When you have to eat a meal, make light ones and stay away from foods that cause gas or digestion problems like anything with dairy, dark greens, or beans.
If you want to learn how to ride a guy, you need to engage your whole body. You should be using your back muscles to help take the strain away from your legs. You should also vary your pace to help give yourself a little bit of a break. Start off slowly and then build up the strength and speed and then slow down again. This will keep things interesting. You also want to make sure that you engaging your partner during riding. You should be kissing, stroking and touching them on their body and encourage them to touch you back. Both partners need to be moving together to have the best experience.
You can even encourage your partner to thrust and take over the work for you to switch things up and make them more involved. The best position for riding is actually crouching over your partner for penetration rather than being on your knees. This gives you better leverage when you are riding your partner. Riding does not always mean having your partner be on their back but you can even have them sit up and then you sit on their lap instead. This will change the penetration slightly and evoke new and interesting sensations. This position also makes it easier to kiss and touch your partner and will slow the pace down for a more sensual experience.
You should also be aware of your body and how you are moving so that you do not lose any endurance of stamina. You want to make sure that your back is straight and that you are not hunching over your partner because this is going to make you feel tense and make it harder for your body to relax. Holding your body too tightly can also cause cramping and pain especially if it is done a long time. Holding yourself too rigidly is also going to make penetration more difficult and painful. The important thing is to be as relaxed as possible by taking deep breaths and keeping your body loose. You should also be using your thighs to take the majority of the work and make sure that you are in a position that you can be in for a long time without straining your muscles. If you need to relax, try kissing your partner and putting the focus on them and when you are feeling more comfortable, you start the movements. You want to make sure that you are connecting with your partner.
Controlling your breathing is important for sex which can be a very physically-demanding activity. Learning how to control your breathing can help to prolong your pleasure and make it so that neither you nor your partner orgasm too early and it will also increase your sexual stamina. For both penetration and riding, you need to be aware of your breathing to help make things easier and help you relax. The first thing to remember is to not hold your breath during insertion, this is going to make you tense up and make it painful and take longer. Instead, take deep and steady breaths and let your body become very relaxed. You need to take deep breaths from your diaphragm and then try to keep them steady and even throughout penetration.
When you are riding a guy, you do not want to hyperventilate or wheeze. That is not very attractive and will also affect your body's energy levels. With the amount of hookups available to gay men in today's society, people are pickier about their partners and if they do not find you attractive during sex, this could be a deterrent for them to call you again. When you do not breathe properly, this causes your blood pressure and heart rate go up which means that you run the risk of passing out or losing your energy very quickly. It also shows your partner that you are probably not a physically healthy person. A steady workout routine or incorporating meditation and deep breathing exercises into your daily life can help show you how to breathe properly to keep your energy levels steady. Deep breathing has many sexual benefits. It can also help increase the flow of positive sexual energy and hormones associated with sex which will make your orgasms better and last longer.
Mindfulness is a way of thinking which focusses on your awareness of the present moment. It involves accepting your feelings, thoughts and physical sensations as a way to bring attention to both the internal and external experience occurring. This is extremely important when it comes to sex because it forces you to stay in the present moment. Mindfulness can be achieved through controlled and deep breathing and is recommended as a way to make sex better. It is the perfect technique to use when you are riding a guy because it will allow you control over your body which will help you focus on pleasing your partner. Controlled breathing can also help you feel more in touch with your body and the physical sensations that it experiences during pleasurable activities like sex.